The Sexual Education Of The Future

Recently there has been a discussion here in the US on the failure of those sexual education programs that encourages teens to abstain from having sex at early age. Surely that from an energetic and religious point of view the desire is to help teen master their hormones and understand the importance of waiting. I’m not just talking about teen pregnancies that are becoming higher all the time, I’m talking about allowing the mind and soul of this young people to mature before entering into such interactions, whose full significance they fail to understand. I’ve read here the unsurprising report that teen that wait after the age of 17 to be sexually active are in much lesser risk for teen pregnancies. The more mature the person is when he starts his sexual lives the more they are able to cope with the responsibility. The fact that teens want to have sex and that they have a very low ability for postponement of gratification is in part the reason for marrying teens from religious or conservative families at an young age. If we think a little of the history we’ll realize that most cultures avoid the social situation we are facing today by marrying their young one in an early age. Think even of your mothers and grandmothers being married at the age of 20 was not unusual and it is much easier to wait with sex when you’re working to create a home and a family. Now the teens get on the one hand the message that they are not to get married too young so they’ll have time to build a career and mature but on the other hand they get the message that it is really “cool” to live like the adults and enjoy all the pleasures that the society has to offer. If we are to sexually educate our teens on right and wrong we can’t do it at school we have to live it. Showing them a life of ambition, competition and self-centered existence and telling them to act differently doesn’t work. The youth reflects us much more than we would like, they show us our indulgence in pleasures, our materialism, our hypocrisies and everything else good or bad as by an magnifying glass. Sure we can say that our way of living is the right way for them too if only they wait few more years, but I suppose most of us know that we are really facing moral crisis that we wish our children would improve that world because we feel there is a lot to improve. The true sexual and moral education is living the life we truly want for them as long as we say one thing and do the other nothing can be gained. Now the question is are we brave enough to look at the mirror that they are holding to our face?